You know how lucky you are. So why does it still feel like something is missing?

Have you found yourself asking; 


Why do I feel stuck? 

Why does this feel so hard? 

Why can’t I just do it? 

Why do I keep ending up back here? 

I know what I need to do, so why am I not doing it? 

“I don’t want to blow up my life. 

But I can´t keep disappearing inside it.”

You scroll when you should be sleeping, then have low energy the next day. 

You try to practice gratitude.

Therapy helped for a while, but then it just fizzled out.

There never seems to be enough time left over for you.

"My life is ' good '. So why do I still feel so lost?"

You know what you want, but somehow you keep finding yourself further away from it.

You might change the person, the job, the goal or the circumstances, but there are moments when the same version of you seems to show up.

 That’s what we mean by a Loop.

A Loop is a pattern your mind runs automatically — before you've even chosen to. It's why the same situation keeps producing the same result, no matter how much you know better.

Sound familiar? These aren't character flaws; they're Loops


Maybe you even make yourself feel bad for not feeling good about where life is at right now?


Strange pains?

That shoulder knot or lower back tension that doesn´t seem to

want to go away

So tired but
can´t sleep?

You’ve slept.

You’re exhausted. Yet somehow you’re still scrolling, thinking, researching or planning.

Everyone thinks you’re
fine

You’re capable, dependable and usually okay, which can make it strangely easy to feel unseen.

Saying yes to things you
don´t have time for?

The answer leaves

your mouth before you’ve had time to work out whether you actually wanted to say yes.

Knowing and doing feel very different? 

You’ve thought about it, researched it, maybe even talked about it in therapy, and still keep postponing the thing itself.

Asking feels strangely hard

You can do so much for yourself, yet asking for what you want can feel disproportionately exposing.

You push your needs back.

You have too much responsibility to meet your own needs. 


Not because you want to blow your life up. You just want more of you inside the life you already have.

"Polly said I could open my eyes in my own time after working her magic, I just wanted to lie there and breathe, it felt like the first fully safe breath I had ever taken! "

Natascha
Malaga

I highly recommend Polly to anyone. Her healing magic has helped me in every single way when I was at my lowest. A fantastic healer with lots of love to give. Shannon,

Shannon
Marbella

"Polly, I literally only did the day one Meditation!!! I already feel better annnnnd I fell asleep! But I know it´s all going to be okay somehow...wtf??? You´re a Wizard Harry! "

Steph
Birmingham

"Aut dicta commodi nostrum quidem delectus molestiae ad et ex odit."

Samantha
CEO / Founder

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"I don’t need a completely different life. I just want to feel visible inside the one I’ve already built."

So why does the same thing keep happening?

You’re responding to what your mind has learned to expect, rather than what may be happening now.

What if I said, 
"The part of you that is keeping you 'stuck' is actually responding perfectly?"

Sometimes it isn’t the circumstances that keep you stuck; it’s the story your subconscious attaches to it.

And that means you can change the Loop.

At the heart of Leave The Loop

You learn to recognise the patterns that keep pulling you back towards what’s familiar, so that when they show up in real life, you have a chance to do something different. 

Finally, have more say in what happens next.


You can create Choice to Leave the Loop

Understanding a pattern can help you recognise it; DRT goes a step further by bringing just enough of the Loop online to safely practise a different response while it matters, creating new Evidence, and more Choice for what happens next.

Leave the Loop

Leave the Loop is a practical way to learn Default Reflex Therapy for yourself and use it in your actual life.


Work with what’s actually keeping you stuck.

Bring the real issues. The decision you keep putting off. The boundary you can’t seem to hold. The reaction you wish you could change.

Those become the material you work with inside Leave the Loop.

You’ll be guided through practices that help you explore what happens in the moment, experiment with another way of responding, and take what you discover back into real life.

You might be further along than you think.

Maybe therapy helped you understand yourself. You know where some of your patterns came from. You’ve talked about them, journalled about them, read the books, and become incredibly self-aware along the way.

And that’s exactly why it is so frustrating when the same issues kept showing up.

But none of that work was wasted.

Understanding a pattern and being able to respond differently while you’re actually inside it are two different skills.

The awareness you already have gives you something to work with. Leave the Loop isn’t asking you to start again.

 You can recognise the issues.
You understand more about where they came from. 

Leave the Loop builds from there. 

It’s to teach you a process you can eventually use for yourself. You learn how to recognise when you’re entering a familiar Loop, work with it while it’s active, create Choice, practise another response, and use what happens next as Evidence.

The Loop finishes.
The skill set comes with you.

You don't need to relive old trauma to create a new you!

We don’t bring the feeling online so you can experience the same ending again. We bring enough of the Loop online so you can practise a different one.
Learn the process in as little as 10 days.
Practise it for at least 28.
Keep the skill for whatever comes next.
You can now take what you already know and learn how to work with it differently.

"What on Earth? Polly I put the meditation and then FEEL ASLEEP! I woke up fine, like I´m actually fine! 


No panic no anxiety, but I don´t even know what was in the recording. You are magic woman!"

Katherine 
Manchester

“I can’t find any words for the magic. But thank you for finally letting me meet myself at 40! 


This is the woman I’ve been missing my whole life.” 

Mother of 3
Shropshire

“The craziest part is that I can do this for myself now. When a new issue or pattern comes up, I know how to drop into the work with it instead of spiralling. 

I genuinely feel like this should be taught in schools.”

COO
Andalusia

"Aut dicta commodi nostrum quidem delectus molestiae ad et ex odit."

Samantha
CEO / Founder
You weren’t supposed to spend the rest of your life trying to understand yourself.

I started noticing the same pattern everywhere.

I’ve worked with more than 2,000 clients internationally, across more than 10 countries and in two languages.

And over years of working closely with people, I began noticing something I couldn’t stop seeing. People could understand themselves incredibly well. They could know what they wanted to change. They could have therapy, learn the tools, practise the techniques and genuinely want to respond differently. And then the moment would arrive, and something familiar would happen again. Different person. Different problem. Different circumstances. 


 Same Loop.

That observation became the beginning of Default Reflex Therapy. I wanted to understand what happens in the space between knowing what you want to do and actually being able to do it when the moment arrives.

And, more importantly, whether we could learn to work with that process ourselves.

Because I don’t believe the goal should be to become increasingly sophisticated at receiving treatment. 
 I want you to become increasingly sophisticated at working with yourself.

The goals is not more years of therapy but "radical autonomy" and a real skill set that lasts a lifetime.

You are almost there

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      FAQs

       

      A few things you might still be wondering… Leave the Loop is different from simply understanding your patterns, so it makes sense to have questions about what the work actually involves, how it fits alongside therapy, and what you can expect from the process. Here are the ones I’d want answered before I started.

      • Is this just positive thinking or mindset work?
        No. You don’t need to convince yourself that everything is fine, replace every “negative” thought with a positive one, or force yourself to believe something you don’t.

        DRT is an integrated immersion programme working with the whole "Loop", including what you notice in your body, the meaning your mind gives the moment, the response that becomes familiar, and what you actually do next.

        You learn to recognise the pattern on a deeper level then intellectualising, work with it while enough of it is present to be meaningful, practise another response and then see what happens when you take that response into real life.

        DRT’s intervention architecture, which uses interoception, body awareness, breath, movement, guided work, narrative work and other somatic tools at different points in the Loop.
      • Is Leave the Loop somatic?
        Yes — but it isn’t only somatic.

        DRT pays attention to what happens in the body because familiar patterns often have physical signals: changes in breathing, tension, heat, posture, numbness, restlessness, the urge to leave, explain, agree, fix or shut down.

        You’ll learn to notice those signals without treating every sensation as danger or trying to make your body permanently calm.

        Leave the Loop combines body awareness and somatic practices with reflection, guided exercises, hypnosis and real-life behavioural practice. The body gives us information. It doesn’t get to make every decision for us.

        That is much more faithful to the actual method than marketing DRT as another “nervous-system regulation” programme.
      • I’ve already tried therapy and it didn’t work for me what is the difference?
        Maybe therapy helped you understand yourself enormously. Maybe it helped for a while and then seemed to fizzle out. Maybe you never found the right therapist. Or perhaps you can explain your patterns beautifully and still find yourself repeating them.

        Understanding a pattern and being able to respond differently while that pattern is active are not the same skill.

        Leave the Loop doesn’t ask you to throw away what you’ve already learned and start again. It gives you somewhere to go next.
      • Do I need to have had therapy before?
        No.

        You don’t need to know why you do everything you do, understand attachment theory, know your “trauma”, or arrive with years of self-development behind you.

        You’ll learn the DRT framework inside Leave the Loop and use your own real-life patterns as the material.
      • Do I have to go back into my childhood or relive difficult experiences?
        DRT’s principle for Past Work is “revisit without reliving.”

        Leave the Loop is not designed to make you hunt for a traumatic root cause or prove that one event explains who you are now. Past Work is about understanding relevant learned patterns while remaining connected to who and where you are today.

        You remain able to pause, stop or step away from a practice. Deeper trauma processing is not what the self-led programme is for and may be better supported with an appropriately qualified practitioner.

        This one is important for both conversion and boundaries. The sheet explicitly requires the page to state that the self-led format is not intended for deep trauma processing alone.
      • How much time do I need?
        You can move through the core learning in around 10 days, but Leave the Loop isn’t designed as a ten-day transformation promise.

        Once you understand the process, the important part is practising it.

        We recommend giving yourself at least 28 days to begin using DRT in different situations. Many practices take around 5–20 minutes, with some deeper exercises taking longer.

        And increasingly, the practice happens in life: noticing the moment you would normally say yes, withdraw, over-explain, procrastinate or make yourself smaller — and discovering that another response is available.

        The programme has a finish line. The skill doesn’t.

        That preserves the practical facts the sheet requires without turning them into the central sales proposition.
      • What if I miss days or take longer than 28 days?
        Nothing happens.

        There is no streak to protect and you don’t go back to Day One.

        The 28 days give you a meaningful period in which to practise what you’ve learned. They are not a deadline. Some people will move quickly; others will spend longer with particular parts of the process.

        You have lifetime access, so you can return to the material as your life changes.
      • Will DRT get rid of my triggers?
        No — and that’s not the goal.

        Protective responses are part of being human. DRT isn’t trying to remove them or turn you into someone who never becomes activated.

        The aim is to make your familiar response less automatic as the only available option.

        You can still leave. Fight. Pause. Connect. Rest. Ask for help. Set a boundary.

        The difference is having more say in which response fits this moment.
      • Is Leave the Loop therapy?
        Leave the Loop is a self-led DRT immersion, not psychotherapy, medical treatment or crisis care.

        It teaches you a structured framework for recognising familiar patterns, working with activation, practising different responses and building evidence through real life.

        It can sit alongside therapy or other professional support; it doesn’t require you to choose one or the other. The existing DRT materials explicitly distinguish the work from psychotherapy, physiotherapy, medical treatment and diagnosis.
      • Is there a money back guarantee?
        Because Leave the Loop is a digital programme with immediate access to the full programme and downloadable materials, purchases are non-refundable once access has begun.

        This does not affect any statutory rights you may have if digital content is faulty or not supplied as agreed.
      • How will I know when I’ve actually “finished”?
        You don’t finish because you’ve fixed every issue you’ll ever have.

        You finish when you understand the DRT process well enough to increasingly recognise a Loop, decide what kind of support or practice you need, and work with yourself rather than automatically needing someone else to interpret the experience for you.

        New relationships, ambitions, losses and stages of life will still give you new Signals.

        Leave the Loop finishes. Life doesn’t. The skill comes with you.